Everybody wants to be happy, successful and loved. Is it really possible to find yourself? The book’s author says so. How to be the best youYou shouldn’t be afraid to stop trying. You still have many tricks to use to challenge yourself.
Raymond de Looze’s new book, How to become the best version of yourself – and why you shouldn’t want to He explains how to use different methods without getting lost in the performance society. This book is not a guidebook with step-by-step instructions or ready-made solutions. However, it does contain questions that will challenge your thinking and give you new perspectives.
According to Looze, the book is a bit of a counter-reaction to the cliché of self-help books. According to Looze, it is not like you walk through a giant marble gate and suddenly you are the best version of you.” “We think we live in a makeable world, in which it is thought that if you follow a step-by-step plan, you will get there. That is a false promise.”
It doesn’t mean you should lie down all day. “I sometimes hear people say: ‘You are completely fine just the way you are’. However, if this is your starting point, then you are in trouble. It’s great for you to set goals and challenge yourself. The challenge is to find the right balance.”
These 5 tips are from the author and can be used to help you stay on top of your personal development.
“Make something beautiful out of it, without the pressure: ‘I have to get everything out of my life’. It doesn’t help to constantly judge your progress. Some people believe that it is important to pursue a purpose in your life. If it frustrates or gets in the way of your goals, don’t dwell on it too much. Are you experiencing something negative in your life? Try to learn something from it and see if you can make a different choice.”
“Could I have done better? Are I forced to make this choice? Don’t be too focused if you want the answers to your questions. If you keep the same thoughts going through your mind, you won’t get anywhere. Take a walk, and let the mind take its time. You will see that there is often a bit more clarity and that useful thoughts come to mind.”
“It’s more about the interpretation you give to the choice than the choice you make. There is more value in that than endless thinking.”
“Everything you do has a dark side and in every life things happen that are beyond your control. Nobody is safe from the impact of life. We do not live in a world that is predictable. Find a balance, and enjoy the adventure when things don’t go according to plan.
“When was the last time you did something for the first time? It’s a learning experience. We tend to stick to what we’re good at. It’s okay to be proud of what you do well, but it is important that you are also open to new opportunities. There are more talents than you realize. Think about what you would still like to do and do so with a lot of curiosity and without too much judgment.”
How to be the best you Is na DIY GuruRaymond de Looze’s second book.